Instead of being afraid of failing, author and speaker Gabby Bernstein says that we should ask ourselves what we can learn and how we can serve. In today’s blogpost I’d like to discuss this further because these are such powerful tools for us to use.
We have all been there, afraid of failing at something important to us, afraid of taking the next step. What if we tell ourselves that it doesn’t matter if we “fail” by our standards, what is the worst that can happen? And to ask ourselves what will we learn by doing the next step no matter how afraid we are? We will learn something. That is not “nothing”. That is something. Whether a small lesson or a big one, we will learn from each of our experiences. By viewing our next step as the next big adventure and a learning experience, we reframe how we see what used to be seen through a fear based view.
If our view includes the question “how can I serve” then that also removes a sense of failure from the equation. If we ask ourselves how we can serve and then follow through on our chosen action for our next step, our intention and purposes are aligned with a bigger worldview than the self-diminishing fear of failing that holds us back too often.
On your journey when you take the next step in your big adventure, if it goes horribly awry, and you feel that you have failed by your standards, remind yourself that you have learnt more than if you had done nothing. And then think of your next step on your journey and ask yourself “how can I serve” and “what will I learn”.
For a downloadable guide and audio on Overcoming Fear of Failure please go to: Overcoming Fear of Failure Guide