Sitting comfortably, take deep slow breaths. The breaths should begin and end in your stomach.
Think of a loved one or someone you know. Visualize their face and hold the image in your mind.
Say the following words silently to yourself in your heart.
Breathing in, I listen to you
Breathing out, I hear you
Breathing in, I listen with my heart
Breathing out, I hear your heart.
These words can be used as a meditation to remind yourself to engage in active listening for when you are with your loved one or that person.
Continue with the deep slow breaths.
Imagine they are speaking to you, and you are listening. You are listening with every pore of your being. You will not interrupt them or judge them. You will listen.
Breathing in, I hear you
Breathing out, I see you
Breathing in, tell me your heart
Breathing out, I will know your heart.
Continue with the deep slow breaths. Continue meditating in this fashion either repeating these words to yourself or just being mindful of your breathing for as long as you wish.
When you are ready, you can go to the person and sit and listen actively and really hear them. They will feel refreshed and balanced if they have this chance.
If you are not able to listen mindfully and actively and you feel the urge to interrupt or argue, then try to tell them that you are sorry and will listen another day, you are not feeling well enough today. Then you need to go and practice your meditation and mindfulness until you are ready another day to actively listen to your loved one as they speak their heart and you hear it.